Debbi Flittner, JD, MA
Licensed Professional Counselor

“We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.”
T.S. Eliot

Debbi Flittner, JD, MA Licensed Professional Counselor

Located in SW/Portland Garden Home Area 

Phone: 503.799.5762
Fax: 503.245.1022

Finding your Way To Your True Self

Basic goodness is our deepest essential nature. We lose touch with it through many years of life experiences that teach us to armor ourselves from our painful or uncomfortable experiences. 

These trying experiences are made concrete in the body, and show themselves as the tension or armoring behavior that leads to automatic reactions, fears, or beliefs about our limitations. They affect how we hold ourselves, how we stand, how we move our bodies. 

We humans tend to make decisions from invisible “life experience” software we created to protect ourselves from emotional discomfort, both in body and mind. Quite often what now seems like a burden really protected us at another time. But today, repeating the same thing is not getting us where we want to be in life. 

As this awareness dawns, we may find we are tired of what the behavior. We are now ready for something different, but are unsure about where to start. 

We will work together to gently examine troublesome behavior, beliefs and situations, from the truth of each felt moment, as we lean slowly into where you are now ready to venture. 

With your willingness to explore past choices and the current life landscape they helped create in your life today, you can decide what you feel ready to change, and what you are ready to leave behind. You can choose from a place of inner connection and groundedness, where you believe in yourself enough to risk change, and to begin following your vision of your life. Our work starts here. 

Strengthening the Body, Mind, Spirit Connection 

Often we find it hard to show up for our present moment experiences. This is natural. When we are born, we arrive equipped with basic skills that help us get food, comfort and safety. These experiences were our earliest teachers, and as we responded to them, we learned to survive and even thrive for quite awhile. 

As young or maturing adults, how we still respond may be outdated, and our responses that helped us get to where we are today now stop us from unfolding our lives in a way that feels satisfying and genuine. 

Maybe now a feeling of mild discontent or restlessness, or a longing for connection to our own intuitive, vital Self tugs at us here and there. We may sense, but not really feel, a joyfulness at the unique expression that we each are in the world; perhaps the light of Self is dimmed from so many years of trying life experiences. 

To begin the unveiling of oneself, to journey back into the warmth of one’s own basic goodness is a worthwhile effort that provides us with a deeper sense of ease with ourselves, and teaches perseverance, humility, and humor. It rewards us by putting us back in touch with the marvelous being still shining beneath the dimmed light. We appreciate and accept all the sharp edges and dark places of ourselves that we find, and in so doing, a softer, lighter way to be finds us. 

While we cannot control all of what life sends our way, we can make a profound difference in how we feel and connect to our life, and this starts by seeing where we are today. We can feel less affected by what comes our way; we can create a new relationship with fear or stress that defuses it, so we keep moving forward in life-not waiting for the magical day to come when we no longer feel anxious at all. 

In this way, we also open up and see that we have more choices than we may first notice. And that seeing provides us with a spacious sense of relief. 

This type of deep and lasting work involves not just the mind, but the body, which often holds memory at a cellular level. We work in a compassionate way to reunite and strengthen the body/mind/spirit connection. 

“may the tide that is entering even now
the lip of our understanding
carry you out
beyond the face of fear
may you kiss
the wind then turn from it
certain that it will
love your back
may you
open your eyes to water
water waving forever
and may you in your innocence
sail through this to that”

~ Lucille Clifton